Let Him Go, Let Him Go

Show the Narcissist in your life that you are not playing.  Period.  You are not willing to accept your role in his life anymore.  The Narcissist in your life has thoroughly convinced you that he loves you and that he'd do anything for you, even die for you.  But when his turn comes, he falls short.  You help him out through all of his hard times, periods of unemployment, sickness and death among his family and friends, but where is he when you need him?  He's there, some of the time, to show you support, maybe to buy you a gift or two here and there, and take you out on special occasions, but is he ever there for you when you need him?  Does he ever provide you with real financial support?  Does he ever hold you down when you experience difficulty in employment?  Did he support you through the deaths of your close family and friends? Was he there for you when you really needed him? NO.  The narcissist will always cave under pressure and can't stand real and true emotional intimacy.  Just when you think your relationship is going places, and is going to make it to the next level, he will push back, start a fight, make an excuse, tell you he needs time to be alone and disappear.  He'll even start problems with you then blame you as the reason why he had to leave, to teach you a lesson.  After a few years with the narcissist, the person that you thought you would never ever leave because you love him so much, you will be praying to be over him, you will command the strength from within to ignore his calls.  After he quits giving you the title of "wife" but never married you, blocks you on facebook, blocks you on the phone, gives you period after period of the silent treatment, you will be begging with yourself to allow yourself to get over him and move on with your life.   Test your Narcissist early in the relationship, if he won't hold you down or spend just as much time listening to you talk as you do to him, let him go.  Just let him go.  If you are not happy with him today, you never will be, because he will never change.  So when the Narcissist blocks you from his phone, fb, and life, do not send him any texts. Do not call him.  Let him know your not his part time, half time, side time, in between, or sometime.  If he isn't ready for a real relationship, and you are, don't pay him no attention, don't give him any of your time.  Let the Narcissist know that you ain't playin' period.  He just might get the message, grow up, and start acting like an adult -- but don't count on that.  Be prepared to just Let Him Go and Move On.  Lose a Narc, Gain a Life.  Narcs will never learn how to behave if you continue to tolerate and accept their bad behavior, and they may not even be physically capable of learning to love you, as much as you and the Narc wishes that your relationship could be a meaningful adult two-sided equal real intimacy and love scenario.  They are emotionally stunted and you can not fix them, the only thing that is within your control is what you allow them to do with you.